Despite all of the advice that I got yesterday to focus on my strengths rather than my weaknesses, I spent several hours today focusing on my weaknesses. Specifically, I have difficulty creating powerpoints that aren't all text, which is problematic since the whole point of using powerpoint is to create presentations that are visual and engaging. I suppose this comes down to my natural tendency to explain using words rather than pictures; I'm a very verbal/textual person, rather than an audio/visual person. This means that my presentations tend to be a long series of bulletpoints, rather than the more engaging series of fun clipart images. That being said, I usually think that fun clipart images are lame, which makes me less likely to use any myself.
Anyway, I desperately needed protein after having a vegetarian lunch, and so I went to my favorite nearby restaurant and had a steak (and a glass of wine, which did nothing for my protein craving but everything for my stress levels). Perhaps I didn't relax enough. I couldn't stop thinking about work, and so I multitasked by reading an entire pamphlet/book on creating effective presentations while sipping my cappuccino. The book was engaging, but I'm not sure that it really helped me to fix the pressing issue, which is that I can't visualize things in an image-oriented format. Now, if only I were presenting about a bastard Scots laird who seduced an innocent English girl and swept her off to the Highlands, I would be able to create a riveting presentation; alas, I have to present on boring facts and recommendations instead. Sigh. You'll know that I've completely lost it if I try to hire bagpipers for the preso!
Actually, I've already completely lost it, if I'm using words like 'preso' in my everyday life. When did I turn so corporate? I suppose it's a natural consequence of living and breathing work. These are my field-marshal tendencies coming to the fore again. I'm currently feeling rather ruthless when it comes to work, and I want to accomplish as much as possible because I'm running out of time. This is v. far away from my diametrically-opposite goal of writing a romance novel and living a quiet life in the country, far from both the madding crowd and the lures of PowerPoint and Excel.
Oh, well, there's no point discussing this any further tonight. I've included a description of my personality type below; the portion about female ENTJs and their interactions with males just about perfectly sums up my difficulties with the opposite sex. However, I'm not happy that the female embodiement of ENTJs is Eleanor Roosevelt; luckily, the fact that I'm an ENTJ doesn't automatically give me a hatchet-face, but clearly I'm going to have to be careful to moisturize and wear makeup so that I don't come across as a ball-busting psycho.
Goodnight!
ENTJ
Life's Natural Leaders
Hearty, argumentative, and robust are three words that accurately describe ENTJs. Their unique preferences combine to give them very high need for control and unusual leadership abilities.
Their focus and energy are directed outwardly (Extraversion) towards a world of endless possibilities and meanings (Intuition), which are translated objectively into system and products (Thinking) in a very timely and orderly fashion (Judging).
Like their cousins, the ENTPs, the entire world seems a chessboard to ENTJs, with pieces in need of being moved--by them--for the greater good. Life is a system of forces to be understood, mastered, harnessed, altered, or defeated, as appropriate, from day to day.
For the ENTJ, all life unfolds through confrontation, arguing, and engaging with one another in the name of learning. The ENTJ starts with the basic assumption that he or she is right and must be proven wrong. This proving process will be beneficial only to the extent that there are others who have the gumption or audacity required to mount an effective challenge. When the engagement is over, if the ENTJ was right, everyone will be better for having gone through the process. If the ENTJ is wrong, then there will be profound admiration and respect for whoever was strong enough to prevail, as well as gratitude and respect for the new lesson learned.
In some ways, life for the ENTJ is a variation of the children's game King (or Queen) of the Mountain. The goal for others is to try to push the ENTJ down from the mountaintop. So long as they are unable to do so, they must remain "beneath" the ENTJ. The process of being challenged is as important to the ENTJ as the outcome.
As a type, ENTJs have low regard for people who refuse to engage them or ate intimidated by them, and high regard for those who stand up to them and challenge them intellectually, emotionally, or any other way. The problem of intimidation is intensified by the ENTJ's arrogance, which is often so much a part of them that they are unaware of its existence. Those around them are usually keenly aware of it.
ENTJs are often impatient, more so than most other types. Their impatience may show itself in the form of a quick temper, inappropriate complaints over relatively small matters, and an urgency to move on to bigger and better things. Their strong egos can trick them into thinking they can do or handle anything, including details and intense interpersonal matters, but details and interpersonal skills are simply not the ENTJ's strong suits.
When an ENTJ "fails" at such matters, the resulting stress, frustration, and feelings of incompetence can result in self-flagellation and criticism, often totally out of proportion to the issue at hand. Indeed, when it comes to criticism of self or others, ENTJs are usually in a class by themselves.
ENTJs are especially gifted with language. Clarity of thought and speech make them excellent communicators. It also sharpens the precision of their critical abilities.
Clearly, gender issues are especially significant for ENTJ females. As a type, their arrogant, confrontational manner and need for control can appear to be quite "unwomanly" to others. Efforts by parents and others to mold them into more traditional female images are usually met with rebellion. Other women usually resent the arrogance of ENTJ females may unwittingly find herself to be a loner, something particularly difficult for Extraverts.
Of course, the problem intensifies for the ENTJ female when dealing with men, even male ENTJs. Their demanding, objective, competent, and independent nature is not particularly endearing to most men. These qualities may obscure the fact that ENTJ females can be quite nurturing and caring. For them, femininity is not defined by traditional roles. It is reflected in the total involvement and commitment they bring to each moment of life.
Though they qualities of ENTJs may be more acceptable in males, they, too, may find people shunning them, often avoiding confrontations in order to escape their arrogance. As with their female counterparts, ENTJ males may be plagued by staff, family and personal relationships in turmoil, leaving them with more time alone than their Extraversion can deal with.
To their frequent surprise, ENTJs are often told they appear angry, even when it is just their enthusiasm for a point that has gotten them so worked up. Such encounters can be frustrating for ENTJs--as well as for those around them--and they may find themselves in the rather ironic position of having angrily to defend their nonanger. The sense of futility that results may make the ENTJ try even harder or, as is often the case with ENFJs, may make them give up and move on to some other project. In either case, the result can be debilitating to all involved.
The ENTJ's home is the arena for all sorts of pursuits. Relationships there tend to be open, honest, and stimulating. While to others ENTJs may seem somewhat abrasive, those who know them well understand that, as with other EJs, their bark is usually worse than their bite. To an ENTJ, relationships grow and develop over time.
As parents, ENTJs see children as fund because they are young adults to be encouraged, enlightened, and stimulated. As they grow, the children, too, become eligible to be drawn into hearty discourse about a variety of subjects. And they become candidates for the molding and shaping that ENTJs like to do for those they care about or have responsibilities for.
The ENTJ style of living is fairly compulsive and family members must know their responsibilities within the system. When rebellion is encountered, the ENTJ may enjoy the exchange, even admire at some level the boldness of whoever is rebelling, but still use maximal powers of persuasion to quell the revolt and ensure that all family members continue to march to the beat of the ENTJ drummer. If the rebel manages to win, that person also wins the ENTJ's respect. Each day, at work or at home, the ENTJ may win some and lose some, but there are few, if any, draws.
Relaxation does not come easily to most ENTJs and when it does, it is only because it has been scheduled. Even then it is viewed as one more assignment to master, and ENTJs attack such challenges with zeal and complusiveness.
ENTJ children are rather direct with both their peers and adults. Though they are often bossy and argumentative, they make friends easily, are quick-witted and gregarious, and have strong needs, like other Extraverts, to include others and be included by others in everything they do, from working to studying to partying. In the eyes of peers, ENTJ children can be simultaneously respected for their capabilities and resented for the obnoxious, overpowering conviction that accompanies their ideas. Competitive in most anything they do, ENTJ children start early to criticize their own shortcomings. They rarely rest on their laurels. Even the best, they believe, can be better. That, indeed, is how the ENTJ approaches everything.
Teachers, of course, may not always understand these attributes, and the result is often some very hostile moments, power struggles that the student is likely to lose. If there is no face-saving way out, the ENTJ can be resistant to subsequent learning experiences. While a good, challenging, competitive engagement that involves an exchange of ideas is enjoyable for ENTJs, the one-sided teacher-student power struggle can be damaging and alienating.
Family events are fun for the ENTJ. They are yet another chance to plan, organize, lead, and show off. It is a time for intellectual exchange and robust encounter. ENTJs look forward to such events with great enthusiasm.
With their natural leadership and systems-planning abilities, ENTJs often rise to upper levels of management fairly quickly. They may alienate some people along the way, but that's all part of the price one pays to express ability and prove competency. Moreover, if one achieves one's goals and has caused learning and growth for self and others, then the alienation was not in vain. Approaching these interpersonal dilemmas objectively, they find it surprising that anyone would be hurt, disappointed, or intimidated by their aggressiveness. In their objectivity, they don't understand why anyone would personalize an argument or competition that was, to their mind, well intentioned, meant only to result in the growth and betterment of all concerned.
Older age for the ENTJ is still a time for conceptual and intellectual expansion. Good development will bring more respect for behavior. However, the later years must still include some form of mental challenge, the more competitive the better. For the ENTJ, the reqards of maturity are the opportunities to read, argue, organize, or theorize--in other words, to continue on his or her lifelong path, but with less accountability. Retirement, if it ever comes, will see a continuation of these activities in some form or another.
Famous likely ENTJs include Douglas MacArthur (whose Extraversion kept him clamoring for the limelight, who viewed himself as a strategist of a high military system with no patience for detail, and whose objectivity always kept a sharp distinction between his mission and the people involved); Eleanor Roosevelt (whose social gregariousness kept her in headlines, whose intuition made her a futurist always looking at the big picture, and who loved managing complex systems); and Frank Lloyd Wright (who implemented his Intuitive-Thinking architectural visions with buildings and systems, whose Judging nature produced guidelines for other architects to follow, and whose Extraversions brought those systems to the public's view).
Summary - ENTJ
Contributions to the Organization
* Bring strong ideals of how organizations should treat people
* Enjoy leading and facilitating teams
* Enjoy cooperation
* Communicate organizational values
* Like to bring matters to fruitful conclusions
Leadership Style
* Lead through personal enthusiasm
* Take a participative stance in managing people and projects
* Responsive to followers' needs
* Challenge the organization to make actions congruent with values
* Inspire change
Preferred Work Environment
* Contains individuals focused on changing things for the betterment of others
* People-oriented
* Supportive and social
* Has a spirit of harmony
* Encourages expression of self
* Settled
* Orderly
Potential Pitfalls
* May idealize others and suffer from blind loyalty
* May sweep problems under the rug when in conflict
* May ignore the task in favor of relationship issues
* May take criticism personally
Suggestions for Development
* May need to recognize the limitations of people and guard against unquestioning loyalty
* May need to learn to manage conflict productively
* May need to pay as much attention to the details of the task as to the people
* May need to suspend self-criticism and listen carefully to the objective information contained in feedback
Order of Mental Preferences
1. Feeling
2. Intuition
3. Sensing
4. Thinking
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